And Tochi Says… Whose thoughts are YOU thinking? » Entries tagged with "control"
How To Get Through Adversity
Each one of us will most definitely go some adversity in this life. As long as we are alive, troubles must come. Our reaction to adversity will determine is we will sink or swim! Many of us focus on the trouble, talking about it, thinking about it, studying it and becoming experts in its minutiae. Ostensibly, this is to help us get out of it; but the time and effort spent on this study frequently yields … Read entire article »
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Who Really has The Power To Label Another?
When a name is given, it is the label that colors and defines the subject in the eyes of the beholders. When a derogatory label is given, it becomes and issue of control; I have the power. Do as I say, and I’ll re-label you better. Is this really true? What if I don’t agree with or want your label? What if I choose to exercise my own power to label and define myself? What … Read entire article »
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Injure The Woman, Pay The Price
Last week, there was a horrific news story about a fifteen-year old girl who, for cash, provided her own body and that of her seven-year old sister for sex to a gang of men at a housing project party. Aside from the physical, legal and moral consequences of this dastardly act, there are also the spiritual and cultural ramifications that beg us to examine this issue a bit more closely than is comfortable. Let me elucidate. … Read entire article »
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Advise Only Those Who Require It
inally, I have come to learn that very many who seek advice really do not want to hear it. They only want to talk, and most often hear themselves talking. This act of talking, in itself, does not have to be considered a terrible thing, for many an intelligent person comes to realize the solution to the vexing problem upon its aural articulation and repetition. Some even reach a definite decision or gain a powerful … Read entire article »
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Happy Anticipation
Here’s a short conversation I recently had with my friend, Tochi, on creating happiness through anticipation: Beverly: I will be taking a wonderful vacation in a few days. As I anticipate being in paradise, my happy factor multiplies moment-by-moment. Any time I am in the laundry room, I can hear the suitcases calling to me: “Is she coming for us this time? Here we are. Let’s go!” They are humming with excitement. Tochi: “Humming with excitement”? … Read entire article »
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Beware: Good Rewards Are Not Guaranteed For Doing Good
Mark 3:1-6 – “Again he entered the synagogue, and a man was there who had a withered hand. They watched him to see whether he would cure him on the sabbath, so that they might accuse him. And he said to the man who had the withered hand, “Come forward.” Then he said to them, “Is it lawful to do good or to do harm on the sabbath, to save life or to kill?” But … Read entire article »
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