And Tochi Says… Whose thoughts are YOU thinking? » Entries tagged with "anxiety"
Squelching The Storm
From time to time, we have things that bother us. These things may consume a great deal of our mental energy, and this in turn may cause some mental confusion, as well as a significant loss of physical energy as well. In situations like this, I have found that the consumption of physical health aids does not suffice or significantly help the situation; rather, it is the physical exposure of those things of concern to … Read entire article »
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Don’t Judge… Because You Have No Idea Whatsoever
Some of the most unproductive interactions I have had in my life have been trying to persuade self-righteous people to have compassion for those who are down on their luck in one way or the other. Of course, these days I have more sense than to even engage. It is so much easier to point and say, “She is wrong!” “He will burn in hell for that!” “They are evil! “He’s just lazy!” “She doesn’t want … Read entire article »
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Define Your Obligations Upfront, Or Someone Else Will (And You Won’t Like It One Bit!)
ne of my younger friends just returned to the US from a long trip to his home country to get married, to a wife arranged for him by his family. (”Nothing wrong with that, as long as you agreed with their choice”, I said.) Soon after the nuptials, he told me, his father-in-law took him aside to lay out his expectations for my young friend. My friend was made to promise to do everything to … Read entire article »
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Maintaining Your Peace Of Mind – Part 6 (Final)
In this blog series, Maintaining Your Peace Of Mind, we have been discussing ways to maintain your peace of mind in the face of life’s ebbs and flows. That challenges will come to you is inevitable; what you choose to do when they come is up to you. Solution 4: Gain the right perspective on your position! Ineffective actions come from inappropriate decisions. Regrettable actions come from wrong choices. One thing you can do is to develop … Read entire article »
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Maintaining Your Peace Of Mind – Part 5
Earlier this week, in Part 4, we discussed discussing actions you can take on behalf of yourself to regain and maintain your peace of mind. Today, let’s look at an internal adjustment that we all require to make in order for this to happen. Solution 3: Realize, understand and accept that not everyone will accept you as you are. People who badly need to improve themselves will often try to start with ‘improving’ you. They believe that … Read entire article »
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Maintaining Your Peace Of Mind – Part 4
Last week, in Part 3, we discussed an indoctrination technique for maintaining your cool in the face of life’s drama. Today, let’s look at actions you can take on behalf of yourself. Solution 2: Be alert to and kill the drama before it starts! You need to pay close attention to the people that create adverse drama and avoid them like the plague. Don’t imagine that you are immune! People who create drama are the constant complainers … Read entire article »
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