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You Are Not Without Power, You Know
During my college days, one of the greatest shocks I experienced as a new computer training volunteer was to hear a job seeker talk of how she was looking forward to reuniting with her abusive husband after his release from jail. “I really don’t want to get a job, ” she confided, “He’s a good provider and I know he love me and the kids. [sic]” She didn’t believe me when I told her that … Read entire article »
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Putting Life In Perspective
In the moment, the thing appears very important and very urgent. Eventually we learn and remember that one thing supersedes another: new relationships replace existing ones, new things take the place of the old, and that which was indispensable becomes outdated. Every situation has a solution, no matter how far-fetched or how unwanted such a solution may be. We must practice putting things in perspective. That which annoys us now most likely will not matter in … Read entire article »
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What Is The True Cost Of Your Obedience?
Each woman had the same story of short-circuited liberation to tell, albeit with a different variation. One talked of how she was forced to leave her true love – a penniless village doctor – to marry an oil company tycoon. Another talked about how the man she wanted was discouraged until the one she didn’t want could save up enough money to come get her. Yet another spoke about how she married whom she wanted … Read entire article »
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Is It Really True?
“Are you married?” “No, I’m not.” “Why not? You are a very beautiful woman. Do you have a problem with men?” “No, I don’t have a problem with men. I choose not to get married, at least for now.” “How can you say you don’t want to get married? God said that every woman must marry!” “Really? When did God tell you that all women must marry?” “It’s written in the Bible! Don’t you believe the Bible as God’s word?” “Really? Where … Read entire article »
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Think You’re Safe?
“It’s none of my business.” “I don’t want to draw attention to myself.” “What if I become the target?” “My people will abandon me.” “What if people find out?” “Somebody is watching.” And other excuses. Looking the other way when you are in the position and have the power to help, save, protect, comfort or defend. Standing down evil involves the littlest things: Listening with attention. Pointing the way to freedom. Giving of resources. Introducing … Read entire article »
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Do You Have Your Exit Strategy Yet?
“I can afford to tell you the plain, unvarnished truth, sir,” she said, “because I have nothing to lose in this game. You have nothing of mine to hold to ransom. I am free to come and go as the wind, and my allegiance is only to myself.” People want us to commit, because they want to feel a high degree of certainty that things will go according to their plans. This is why it is … Read entire article »
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